Exorcising some demons

Had a long talk with my sister and realized that there are somethings that I've been burying about the past. I remember talking to my mom a few years ago about something my dad did to her. She talked about him pulling a gun on her years ago. Earlier this year I went to my sister's law school graduation and she told me that he had taken a shot at her with the gun. I find that completely unexcuseable for any reason. That is the main reason why I haven't talked to him is because of that. I then found out that he never wanted children in the first place.

Another thing that he did that annoys the fuck out of me is that he lived 30 minutes away from his folks and he only came to see them only once or twice a month. I spent a year and a half taking care of them and hardly ever saw him come over to visit them. He never showed any emotion for them passing away at all that I could see. Then again I finally borke down and cried for their loss after they'd been gone for over 3 months. That was how I dealt with losing some of the dearest people I'd ever known. I felt that it was my job to be the "strong" one in ght family, the one that everyone could lean on. It was a waste of non-emotion on my part.

I think that the only way I can forgive him is if he admits to what he did and gives the reasoning behind his actions.